Priests without a perspective or  (as we like to say) gurus without a clue.

We’ve all read a book by this person, right?

Some of us have even met them in the temples and the ashrams and the “sacred” grounds. Heck, Oprah even promotes this person. This is the  (usually) guy who  presumes to speak about God and presence and being in the now and morality and virtue and karma and what’s expected from Spirit and all that other spiritual stuff without really having a clue about what it takes to live this life. They sit in their fancy chairs, or assume lotus position on some guilded  podium, and prognosticate about karma, consciousness, the cosmos (sometimes) evolution, galactic alignment, and what have you without having a real clue about the day to day happenings of the world.

And the problem with this?

Well as one bright person once said, we are not humans beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Seems sensible right? And if it is, if the Truth is that we are spiritual beings having a human experience, then how can someone with limited human experience,  who lives in social isolation, who has no kids, who can’t maintain a long term relationship, who lives off donations,  and hasn’t a clue what it means to move around in the “real world” have anything useful to say about what it means to be spiritual in a human body?

The answer?

In my opinion, they don’t.

They can’t!

“Live in the now?”

“Be fully present?”

“Work on your karma.”

“Be a good person.”

“Follow the commandments.”

“Learn your life lessons.”

“Just sit and attract.”

I mean, there appears to be as much spiritual insight and good advice in any of these standard answers as there appears to be blood in a stone.

How does one “attract” wealth and prosperity when the economy is collapsing around them?

How does one one “live in the now” or be “fully present” when the wife is home by herself and the little kids needs to be changed, fed, and napped at the same time?

How does one even concentrate when the poverty is so grinding you can’t even get a single good meal?

You can offer platitudes of the “smile and wave” variety in these situations I suppose, but really the advice you get is often singularly ridiculous, abstract, and meaningless.  It’s often more of a “pretend everything is OK despite your collapsing world” or “it’s all your fault because of your bad karma” kinda of advice.

And it’s not just the personal and social vacuity you often face from these “give a bad name to spirituality” folks, it is the political and economic as well.  As if poverty in South Africa, or Haiti, or in the slum downtown is the result of “failure to attract” or bad karma. Rather a more plausible explanation is two hundred years of colonial exploitation. And if people in Haiti are poor it is because the French government stole money from them and forced them into enduring poverty when it demanded 21 billion (in today’s) dollars just to quit colonizing, exploiting, and enslaving the people!

It is therefore necessary to look back at the struggle for emancipation waged by the Haitian population, because in retaliation against this double-faceted revolution, both anti-slavery and anti-colonial in nature, the country inherited the ransom France demanded for independence, amounting to 150 million francs (that is, France’s annual budget at the time). In 1825, France decided that “The current inhabitants of the French part of Santo Domingo will pay into France’s Federal deposit and consignment offices, the sum of one hundred and fifty million francs, to be paid in five installments, year after year, with the first term due 31 December 1825. The money will be used to compensate the former colonists who will demand compensation.[3]” That is equivalent to approximately 21 billion dollars nowadays. From the outset Haiti had to pay a very high price. Debt became the neo-colonial instrument used to maintain access to this country’s many natural resources. (http://www.globalresearch.ca/index.php?context=va&aid=17042).

Of course, so many spiritual teachers  will tell you something different, but what do they know really? Have they ever taken a political science or sociology course? Do they understand the psychology of oppression, learned helplessness, and that sort of stuff? Do they realize the level of exploitation that occurs in this world? Have they ever looked into the function of the World Bank, or the International Monetary Fund?

No.

Most of them are too focussed on their dog and pony show to really care about any of these more substantive issues, or how these might be related to spirituality, spiritual experience, and incarnation–except perhaps to say “it’s your fault” or “you chose your suffering” or “you get what you sow.”

Of course if that were true, Haitians wouldn’t at least get principle plus 2% interest over 200 years and they money they handed over to France. So, obviously something else going on.

So why is this such a concern and what can we do about it?

Well it’s a concern because frankly it makes a mockery out of spirituality and really throws into question the veracity of most claims to wisdom. If spiritual teachers and gurus know nothing about the basic truths of this world, how on earth can they be a) respected or b) believed. If they are so clueless that their only explanation for the quake in Haiti is they “chose to sacrifice” (rather than the fact that poverty led to sub standard building led to ubiquitous collapse of buildings). How substantive and accurate can their accounts be if they cannot even take into account the exigencies of women’s existence, the reality of colonial exploitation, or the propaganda of a global media system? And perhaps more to the point, how can anybody respect spirituality in general when the answers that are provide by your average pundit are so ridiculously naive (from a political, economic, social, or psychological) perspective as to defy even basic common sense? No wonder so many people are so hostile to any discussion of God and spirituality since it so often leads to senseless and meaningless platitudes.

And what are we going to do about it.?

Well, speaking as two people who have written and thought a lot about spirituality, we think we need to raise the standard for spiritual dialogue and advice. Ask your guru or priest some hard questions. What do they know about life, politically, economically, socially? Do they have families? Do they know anything about children, or how difficult it is to raise them? Do they understand the reality of exploitation (of women, of children, of workers)? What is there explanation for poverty in Africa, or the massive destruction in Haiti? Do they offer “non-answers” (well that’s just “God’s plan”), or excuses, or justification (they “chose” to suffer), ridiculous causal explanations (The Mayan Calender made Gaia do it) devoid of any grounded reality?

And take a look at their surroundings.

Are the Deeksha gurus using money to help the poor, or are they building themselves massive altars to their own egos?

And if they don’t have good answers?

And if they are providing justifications?

And if they do seem clueless?

Well it’s up to you. We are not going to tell you what to think or do.  However if you believe the aphorism that we are “spiritual beings having a human experience,” (which we certainly do), and if you are concerned about the nature and quality of that experience, then just like you wouldn’t take your red Ferrari to a person that doesn’t know anything about cars, why would you take your physical body (your physical unit as we like to say) to somebody who clearly lacks psychological, sociological, political, or even economic sophistication? I mean, just because someone says they talk to God (or Spirit), and just because they’ve claimed to have a a mystical experience or two, does not necessarily make them anything more than a spiritual neophyte, confused seeker, or even snake oil salesmen. Personally, we think it is time to raise the standard on what counts for spirituality and spiritual dialogue.

Gina and Mike

Why?

Well, because gender based exclusion, one sex only activity, is quite literally the root of all female (and male) oppression in this world.  We’ll stop short of saying it is the root of all evil because as we all know, the root of all evil is love of money. But it is definitely the root of all gender based oppression.

Now we know that’s a pretty bold statement, but bare with me for a moment.

We all know that women are not treated equally in this world right? That’s the reality! Women perform 60% of work world wide, they earn 10% of income, and own 10% of the land (Eitzen and Baca-Zinn, 2003:243).  Women are segregated into pink collar occupations, enjoy less financial stability, lower rates of pay, and are generally expected to sacrifice their career paths while their men get ahead. Women are generally left at home to raise the children (an incredibly difficult and demanding job) with minimal help from their spouses and ironically, this is true even in relationships where the male and female are overtly egalitarian. You can go into a marriage with very high ideals but when the babies come, traditional scripts tend to come into play and it is the women who are the ones who bear the primary responsibility. Of course, you ladies take five or six years off your career path to raise children and what do you get? Fewer promotions! It’s a sacrifice that we” ave to make when we raise children, but it’s almost always the women who makes that sacrifice which can, ironically enough, be quite the slap in the face when the kids grow up, the marriage breaks up, and the women is left with nothing but the pink collar ghetto. As a result of the “sacrifices” they make, women experience higher rates of depression, poverty, and social stigmata. And not only that, women and girls are victims of spousal abuse and sexual violence far more often than men. Globally, around the world, women are oppressed and there is no denying that. If you were born female, you are born with a social and economic handicap that is going to make your life a lot harder than it needs to be if genders were treated equally.

And why is this?

Well, there are a lot of reasons why it happens but they all come down to the fact that we (and by “we” we mean the people of this earth) have convinced ourselves that boys and girls are different and because of that we then have a ready made JUSTIFICATION for just about any gender based inequality, exclusion, or oppression that you might want to think of.

Why do women stay home and look after the babies? Because girls are different. They are the ones who nurture.

Why can’t girls be doctors? Because boys are different. They are smarter and more capable.

Why don’t men participate more in cooking? Because men are different. They like mechanical things while girls like to bake.

Why don’t women get paid as much as men? Because they are different.

Why don’t women get promoted as fast? Because they are different.

You get the picture?

Of course at this point some of you will be thinking, well the genders are different. Boys will be boys and girls will be boys. Girls are emotional, irrational, weak. Boys are tough, strong, achievers. Girls like dolls, boys like cars (though tell that to Danica Patrick). Girls are like this, boys are like that. Honestly though, all that’s a load of pseudo-scientific horseshit. There’s really no “scientific” basis to suggest that boys are all that much different than girls. For one, the scientific academy has a huge gender bias that makes any scientific defense of gender differences useless and indefensible. And you can’t argue this. When Mike did his psychology undergraduate degree twenty years ago, we knew there was a bad gender bias in psychology and psychologists knew they had to do something about it. Sad thing is, they didn’t! In fact after twenty or thirty years of awareness, the gender bias is still there. And for two, when you put out the sacred and holy BELL CURVE and compare that by gender, you find what’s most interesting is the massive overlap. There may be difference in the extremes in abilities, sometimes, but really what’s so remarkable about the genders is their similarities. The truth is, male or female, we all have two arms, two legs, two eyes, a brain, an intellect, emotions, feelings, and all the things that make us human. It’s not our differences that are important (though admittedly they can be a lot of fun), it’s our similarities and these similarities far outweigh any superficial sexual characteristics that might differentiate us.

Of course, the pseudo-scientific clap trap about gender differences, or the fact that we all chose to focus on difference rather than similarity, isn’t the main point here. The main point is that once you do that, once you allow for the idea that men and women are different (even though it’s their similarities that are remarkable) then you have created the necessary ideological support (i.e. the rationalization and justification) for gender oppression on this planet. You buy into that dichotomy, you become the oppressor (even if you are the sex being oppressed).  It really is as simple as that.

And what does this have to do with gendered activity? Well, gendered activity is the prototypical gender oppression. It is the prototypical exclusion upon which all other exclusions are based.  Of course, I understand you might have a hard time swallowing this. I mean, what does a girls only baby shower, or a boys only hockey club, have to do with the violent suppression of women on this planet? Well, everything. Once you polarize the genders, once you create a distinction, once you allow exclusion and sorting based on difference, then it becomes possible to rank, and sort, and organize and deny and exclude along any other indices you can care to think about. If you say, only girls can play or only boys can play then by default you give legitimacy to the mythology of gender difference.  And if you give legitimacy to the myth of gender difference, then you have provided support for the reality of gender oppression.  Of course, you may not like to hear this. You may be sitting comfortably in a life organized around gender based activities, but that doesn’t change the fact that if that is your life, then you are supporting the gender based oppression of women on this planet, even if you don’t want to. It is exactly like the feminists say, the personal is political.

So what are you going to do about it? Well, if you are a male and you have a wife, or a sister, or a mother, or a daughter, and you are interested in seeing them treated equally in this world, then you have to stop thinking about gender differences, and stop supporting gendered activities, and start working towards gender inclusion. If you do anything else you are a part of the problem, and a component of the oppression. If you need help, take a page out of this grade school lesson book on peer exclusion and just say no (http://www.tolerance.org/activity/peer-exclusion)

Problem: Sometimes a group of children won’t let another kid play with them just because of their gender. Gender is whether you are a boy or a girl. Sometimes boys will say that a girl can’t play with them. Sometimes girls will say that boys can’t play with them.

Rationale: This isn’t nice. It is wrong to exclude someone just because they are a boy or a girl, or because of their gender. Not letting someone play with you just because of their gender is called bullying, and bullying is not allowed…

If you’re a female and you don’t like the social, political, economic and (even) spiritual inequality that becomes possible when we allow gender difference and gender exclusion, if you don’t like the idea of maybe one day finding yourself on the wrong end of a glass ceiling, submerged in a pink collar ghetto, or crying as your husband of twenty years, whom you sacrificed your entire life and career for, leaves you to go hang with a younger female because “that’s what men do,” then take a page out of the same grade school lesson book on peer exclusion and just say no. You can’t say “you can’t play just because you’re a boy.”

And just to be clear, just because you are female doesn’t give you free pass. You don’t get to engage gender inclusions and then complain about the sorry state of this world, or your life, or your daughter’s awful marriage to that “typical male,” down the road. The personal is political and change starts with you.

Oh an incidentally, everything we’ve said here about gender difference and exclusion applies equally well to ageism, racism, or any of the other exclusions, based on difference, that make the inequality of this world go around. As long as we keep thinking of ourselves as different and not as a unified human race, as long as we hang onto our “we and they” mentality, we create the wedge that allows the inequality that causes the suffering that ruins the lives of the vast majority of people on this earth.

And that’s the Truth.

Mike and Gina

References

Eitzen, D. Stanley and Maxine Baca-Zinn.
2003 Social Problems. Boston: Allyn and Bacon.

Additional Reading

http://www.delmar.edu/socsci/rlong/problems/chap-09.htm

http://www.tolerance.org/activity/peer-exclusion

http://personalispolitical.tripod.com/